Commitment

So, I have a question. Why is being in a long-term committed relationship such a shocking thing nowadays? Why do people feel the need to ask me, even after telling them it's been five years, "Wow! You guys are pretty serious, huh?" No, shitforbrains, we're still just on the fling part of things. Never mind the fact that we live together now. Naaaaah, we're all for free love. And not to bash on those who do like free love. I'm finding myself more and more partial to polyamory as the days go on. But why be shocked? Why act surprised to find out two people are serious for each other? Is that what today is like? Where flings are less shocking than people intending to marry each other? Why?

I might be able to understand if you didn't expect the person to be that way. To give an exaggerated example: a hippy get married to one man and stays with him for sixty years until they die. Hippies have a reputation for being less about monogamy and more about givin' it to whoever asks. Because free love, baby. Sure, you can say "Huh, that's really nice. Given your past/what I've heard about you/previous judgments, I never woulda guessed." That's fine. Close-minded, but I'll excuse it. But to act like you've never heard of that happening anywhere else in the world??? C'mon!

I can only date people with the intention of being with them long-term. I know many other people aren't like that, but I accept it. Or at least I try to. Yeah, I explain the dangers of casual sex, but only because that's common knowledge. Please, if you think I need to be enlightened about the dangers of marriage, let me fuckin' know. Because chances are, I didn't know about those dangers before. My mother recently told me the difference between marriage and a long term relationship, because I seriously did not understand why this change happened between normally happy couples and married couples. She explained to me the financial side of things. And it made sense to me. Because you can have a fabulous fucking time with that one dude, but if he has terrible credit? And you get married? He's fucking your shit up. And that's when heads begin to roll and tempers flare. Because you forget about all those good things in the light of money problems. And money problems themselves and the dependency on money is an entirely different conversation, but you get my point. I really didn't know that before. So, my boyfriend could be this fantastic fucking guy, I love every waking minute with him, but if he was bad with money... Once we got married, it wouldn't just be his problem anymore. Thankfully, he's not the one I have to worry about. Unfortunately, I'm the one I have to worry about with that shit. But I'm sure I'll figure it out on the way. I ain't stupid.

Anyway. Ramble, ramble. I should probably do an outline of these things before typing them up all willynilly because they start to get away from me a bit once I get into it... But oh well. Not like you folks care.

So yes. Stop acting surprised when I tell you my Master and I have been together for almost five years. So the fuck what if I'm only 20. Are you surprised because I'm more successful in love than you have been? Because if that's so, I'll let it slide. Then again, I probably shouldn't get so caught up in what my stripper father thinks of my love life. He's got 40+ kids, from almost as many different women. So, I'm pretty sure the shock is just from comparing and finding out how different our lives are. See, Daddy? You did teach me something!